JOURNEY WITH ME
What I want to offer you is a patient, empathetic, listening ear.
A hand to hold through each step of the process - whether you're about to go through Family Mediation, or you're figuring out how to DIY your Parenting Plan.
I want to guide you towards the heart-centred, child-focused Mediation and Co-Parenting that you're longing for.
Maybe you've seen other parents working things out together, sitting side by side at their daughter's piano concert, encouraging each other to be the best parents they can be.
Maybe you're wishing that was you.
Maybe your post-separation parenting journey is more chaos than calm, and more conflict than consideration ... but deep down you know there must be a way for your children to have that peaceful experience of separation as well.
Hold onto that hope, precious one - there is a way.
My coaching packages are for you if you're ready to
> step into a new Chapter in your life,
> create a consistent and mutually respectful Co-Parenting relationship
> start conflict-proofing your Parenting Plan, and
> connect with your children more deeply as you allow your heart and your values to shine through.
What can I expect
from a coaching package?
1 x coaching session per week, for 4 weeks.
+ email support/feedback.
Through a combination of phone/online coaching and email contact, we will focus on the outcomes that are most important to you.
This could include:
Clarifying your values and intentions
Focusing on your children's needs
Exploring what changes/behaviours you could see that would tell you that things were moving forward
Exploring your children's thoughts and wishes around the separation
Talking about practical steps forward
Creating an agreement or a Parenting Plan
Workshopping your ideas, options + solutions for mediation
Understand your hopes, needs + non-negotiables
Discovering what type of Agreement you need
Looking at what kind of agreement could be possible in the future
Knowing when to seek further help.
MEDIATION PREP PROGRAM
3 x coaching sessions (before + after your mediation)
+ email support/feedback.
The Mediation Prep Program is timed around your mediation appointments, and includes:
A pre-mediation Conflict Coaching session: this will help you connect with your hopes, values and needs, and map out your pathway forward.
A pre-mediation Preparation session: Get feedback and Practical guidance as you write your opening statement, agenda, options + solutions, and non-negotiables, and How to conflict-proof your Parenting Plan.
A post-mediation Debrief/Planning Session: discuss the outcomes of your mediation and plan your next steps.
Access to me via email during my weekly "office hours", until all three sessions have been completed.
Hey, precious one!
I'm Shona! Mediator and Conflict Coach, Wife, Mumma and Founder of speaksweetly.com.
You probably already know what I do ... mediation, conflict coaching, Parenting Plans, that kind of thing ... but you probably didn't know that this is not the direction I wanted to be headed in, and this is not what I started out to do at all.
When I finished my undergraduate degree in Cognitive Science (waaay back in 2005) and signed up for Post-Grad studies in Conflict Management, I honestly thought I was going to be convincing people to keep their marriages together ... in my first years as a mediator, I also tried focusing on minimising their conflict, and getting them to do all the things I thought they should do - like I knew best, right?
But, in 2011, everything changed.
Grace and perspective came in the form of my first little bubba, Miss Z.
Being a mumma gave me a new understanding of the ache of a parent to be with their child, and the pain of making living arrangements that meant they were separated from each other ...
... but, more than that, all my years of studying "the theory of Child Development" took on a life of it's own. I watched my own baby grow and develop and I started to view things like "attachment" through her eyes. It wasn't theory anymore, it was a beautiful, innocent, vulnerable little person, needing love and security and the freedom to be a child.
It was a deep shift in my values. I started to understand that, instead of trying to convince my clients to be "amicable" towards their ex-partner, the key to change was to bring to the surface the heart-centred values of a loving parent.
I started to connect with other parents differently, and learn from their stories as well. And I gained an adoration for little people that I had never experienced before ... I could communicate with them in a different way, understand their little hearts better, advocate for their needs with a new determination.
At the same time, my heart was being broken for the little ones whose parents were struggling to see their children's needs, in the middle of their own grief ... the parents who so loved their children, but were so overwhelmed with their own feelings that their children were left fending for themselves, sometimes stranded on an ice-bridge between two parents throwing fireballs.
My purpose was evolving every day, and as I focused on their best hopes as parents,
I BEGAN TO SEE MY CLIENTS RECONNECTING
WITH THE PARENT THAT THEY
SET OUT TO BE.
When I trained in Conflict Coaching in 2012, it was another piece of this puzzle - another way to help my clients explore their values, needs and identities, and finally understand the power that they had in their own hands to create change in their Co-Parenting relationships.
They could create new communication patterns and make arrangements that meant that their little ones no longer had to pass messages, or feel like they're not allowed to be close to their other parent, or be stuck in the middle of a parenting war.
THAT'S WHY I'M HERE TODAY.
To help you connect, as a parent, to your values, and your hopes for your children and their lives, as well as ...
To design simple systems and strategies that you can implement to prepare for mediation and ...
To guide you through how to make a Conflict-Proof Parenting Plan so that your 'Peaceful Co-Parenting' dreams can come true!
Today, my training informs me, and my connection with my own children (and my own values and hopes, too!) guides me ... so that's why I'm all about heart-centred, values-driven, child-focused mediation and Co-Parenting.
Do you feel the same, precious one?
Is it time for you to stop feeling like a Single Parent, and start living the calm and supportive Co-Parenting life? Click through to the application form and let's connect!
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